long goodbye...

These past few days have been very intense emotionally. I do not even know where to start, and that indicates to me that I need more time to process. And to trust the process.

Our conversations of late have been around sowing and harvesting seeds of love, how long to wait and when to let go. I am learning that sometimes we have to let go at first only to come back again. Or at least have that hope, for it helps when working through the issues. Yet there comes a time when we must engage in that uncertain

…long goodbye: where we must let go of someone we love dearly for their benefit, for an uncertain amount of time, so that they one day may return whole again to continue what Mette said is important—life being journeyed by two.

Tina Dico captures it perfectly in her song titled “Long Goodbye” on her album *In The Red*. And there is a line that captures the essence of the journey that needs to be taken:

”I will do it on my own if I have to, I will go there all alone just to get to you.”

I really urge anyone and everyone to get a copy of her CD. Amazing work indeed.

We are not perfect. We will never be perfect. Ever. As for being healthy, we are never cured. What makes us healthy is that we acknowledge our issues, fears, the little person inside and continually seek an understanding of who we are through self honesty. And that we are not afraid to engage in that personal journey each and every day. When we are at that stage, we are ready to take on life as two. Scary? Yes. Necessary? Yes, especially when we want to spend life as two—meaning finding our soulmate and nurturing our relationship with them eternally.

We can find our soulmate and not be ready, therefore taking a long goodbye is essential in order to return. Both will be fulfilled, able to appreciate the gifts that each brings into the relationship, therefore better prepared to continually sow and harvest from one another over a lifetime.

On the flip—what do we do, those of us who are already engaged in that journey, when our soulmate takes a long goodbye? Since the time is uncertain, do we wait? Move on?

Long goodbyes are good for both, for each can learn from the experience and walk away still loving one another. That in itself is setting the strong foundation for that day, should it arrive, that each can come together again whole. As for the time that passes, that uncertain amount of time, we need to embrace life, pull within ourselves to nurture and heal and grab life by its ass. And when we least expect it, the long goodbye just may end with your soulmate at the door, after going “all alone just to get to you.” What to do when that happens? Well, that is another conversation…
question: when do you say hello?