it's complicated...

i was just readying for bed when Julian called.

he and his gal split on Friday eve. add to that my other friend Gabriel and his gal split as well.

getting into the details is not important. japanese culture pinnacles itself on what is not said, hence let's leave it to filling in the blanks.

chatting with Julian briefly made me chuckle a bit, thinking of the FaceBook choise on relationships that gives you the opportunity to list it as

... it's complicated: better left unsaid by saying so.

i find it interesting how some tend to repeat the same cycles in relationships. it seems many go after the same type of person, only to end up going through the same hell as before. Julian... are you reflecting? :)

my thoughts are that each person comes into our lives to challenge us to grow. everyone has a gift for us, only if we look past our needs, our ego self and wants to see it. i choose to see the gift in everyone (as best as i can... i am human afterall) and focus on the present. i have found that not being tied to a particular outcome has been helpful as well.

is everything complicated?

it does not have to be, it is all a matter of perspective, setting expectations, not being tied to a particular outcome, living in the present, seeing the gift and being gracious.

methinks the mediation has worked well!

at the end of the day, yes, there is someone out there for us. put it out in the universe, choose from desire (not from a need or want!) and let it do the work for you. and try not to focus on the end result, it is the journey that matters most. focusing on what we have, as opposed to what we do not have, helps as well.

i am not sure why i am even writing about this to be honest... maybe it is a dovetail of the emotionally exhausting week i had last week. maybe i sense that the world needs a bit of perspective as things are perceivably crashing down (real estate, stock markets). i am not sure... i am pretty connected to the collective conscious, which has its advantages and drawbacks, only depending on how it is used. or it could very well be that this is my safe spot to land for now.

ok, i am getting rather philosophical so i should probably grab my book and go to bed! :)

question-- how do you (un)complicate?