consensus reality...

Seems fitting to continue with the northern Europe-slash-giant hairball theme. Let me explain.

One of the most interesting features of Danish society is the art of consensus. It is difficult as an outsider to see where it starts, yet when you are in the thick of it you just know. It is an intricate social custom that occurs in group dynamics when pursuing a decision. And it is rooted in socializing, kind of ends with a decision and waiting for action. Looking for the cultural signal as to when consensus ends is a phenomena unto itself, and I just recommend you wait for others to leave the table before you do. A friend who is now is Boston terms consensus seeking behaviour as *spreading the liability* of the decision making process so that if the action does not happen (which it usually does not, at least not in the performance/solution oriented way of looking at things) or the decision fails or is terrible, there is not one person to blame but the group. No one gets into trouble, which is tough for of course my question is *where is the accountability*? Ah, never mind…

Slam this concept into everyday life and stretch it. When we are going about our day, at times we have an opportunity to step outside of our box and really do something creative or out of the ordinary, only to succumb to our

…consensus reality: where we allow the *tribe* of others in life, those who do not dare, to influence us to maintain the status quo

and not get out of that shipping container. It is our problem! We must own it!

And why? Even though there is a group that is sharing the liability, at the end of the day it is up to us to express our authentic selves and push outside of our boxes to be brilliant and beautiful people. We are liable for our development, regardless of what the tribe does. The tribe may go on, droningly so, yet we lose out if we do not dare.

On the flip—what if the tribe provides that sense of family we long for, even though it drives us from our authentic self? It is rather *lowest common denominator* to say the least, yet does it serve as a protection from harm when we stand out? Or, if we all say to hell with this and step outside our boxes, are we not then creating a new tribe? Then what?

Personally, the LCD concept is what holds most things back, stifling growth and development. Creative genius suffers, beautiful people do not evolve and amazing things cannot come to fruition with the LCD-- that tribal mediated reality in the form of consensus.

There are many out there who are ready and willing to go that extra mile on the inside to make a difference on the outside. Open the door and break from the inactionable consensus reality-- there are more of us out here than we think!

question: what is your tribal reality?